In today’s world, the societal “norms” influencing our children have shifted in deeply concerning ways. Conversations I’ve had with child therapists, school counselors, and my own research reveal a stark reality: what once was seen as extreme or inappropriate is now considered "normal" behavior among children and teens. This troubling shift encompasses sexuality, pornography, social media addiction, and even moral and spiritual grounding.
When I was a child, my understanding of identity and morality was guided by my parents, particularly my mom, whose “normal” set a high bar. But today, society’s “new norm” has alarmingly lowered that bar. Children are exposed to and experimenting with ideas and behaviors that, just a generation ago, would have been seen as dangerous or unthinkable. From fetishized pornography to extreme exploration of gender and identity, our children are navigating a dark and slippery slope.
This blog isn’t about judgment but about a call to action. As parents, mentors, and role models, we must hold firm to timeless values, resist societal pressure, and guide our children toward a healthy moral compass. Below, I explore some of the key “new norms” we face, why they are dangerous, and how we can empower our children to navigate them without losing their way.
The New Norms: A Closer Look
1. Extreme Exploration of Gender and Identity
Many children today feel pressured to explore gender and sexual identities far beyond what was once typical. Concepts like being non-binary, a “furry,” or identifying as a different gender have become mainstream. While it’s essential to listen to our children’s questions and feelings, we must also recognize the dangers of societal overreach in shaping these personal and family conversations. God created us as male or female, and I believe this foundation is a critical part of a healthy identity. Encouraging children to navigate these deep topics with parental guidance—not societal dictate—is vital.
2. The Pornography Epidemic
The accessibility of pornography, even extreme and dark forms, is one of the most alarming new norms. Many children as young as eight are exposed to explicit content through games, social media, and online platforms. Pornography today goes beyond what many adults even understand, normalizing fetishes and unhealthy relationships. Therapists may suggest this exposure is “normal” for teens, but as parents, we should not accept this as inevitable. We must be proactive in teaching our children about the dangers of pornography and creating safeguards to protect their innocence.
3. Social Media Addiction
Social media has replaced family time and personal connections for many children and teens. Platforms like TikTok, Snapchat, and Instagram inundate them with unrealistic standards, harmful trends, and content that normalizes unhealthy behaviors. The addiction to likes, comments, and endless scrolling creates a void that should be filled by family, faith, and meaningful relationships.
4. The Decline of Faith and Morality
I remember when faith and church were central to moral development. Today, Christianity often takes a back seat to society’s shifting values. Church has become more casual, and parents often negotiate with their children to attend. Instead of instilling God’s teachings as a foundation for life, many families allow societal norms to dictate their children’s moral compass. This decline in faith-based values has left a void in teaching children about responsibility, respect, and integrity.
How Parents Can Resist the "New Norm"
We can’t change society overnight, but we can start at home. Here are five practical steps to help parents build a strong moral compass in their children:
Model Strong Values
Children learn more from what we do than what we say. Be the example of integrity, faith, and respect in your home. Set clear expectations for behavior and stick to them.
Open Lines of Communication
Create a safe space for your children to ask questions and express their feelings. Talk openly about the dangers of societal norms and help them understand why certain behaviors are harmful.
Set Boundaries Around Technology
Limit screen time, monitor social media use, and have open discussions about the content they consume. Consider installing parental controls and teaching your children how to use technology responsibly.
Prioritize Faith and Family
Make faith and family a cornerstone of your home. Attend church together, pray as a family, and teach your children that their worth comes from God, not society.
Be Unwavering in Your Standards
Society’s norms will continue to shift, but your values don’t have to. Stay steadfast in teaching respect, kindness, and responsibility. It’s okay to say “no” and hold firm when something goes against your family’s moral compass.
Conclusion: Standing Firm in the Face of Change
As parents and mentors, we have the power to resist society’s “new norms” and instill strong values in our children. It starts with us—modeling behavior, setting boundaries, and creating a home rooted in faith and love. While society may continue to push boundaries, we can remain unwavering in our commitment to raising children with a healthy moral compass.
By staying strong and grounded, we not only protect our children but also give them the tools to navigate an increasingly complex world with confidence and integrity. Let’s reject the slippery slope of the “new norm” and work together to build a better future for our children.
Cassandra Burn, Founder
The S.P.A.C.E Team
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